🔥 Remember Who You Are: Rising From the Ashes

There are seasons in life that break us, shape us, and force us to rebuild ourselves from the ground up. For the past two years, I’ve been doing just that—working myself out of heartache, loss, and the feeling that somehow, I had forgotten who I was.

The brilliance, the excellence, the drive that had carried me for years—it felt distant, buried beneath the weight of everything I had endured. Trauma has a way of doing that. It doesn’t just wound you—it convinces you that you’re no longer the person you once were.

But here’s what I’ve learned: who you are never truly disappears. Even in the depths of struggle, your essence remains—it’s just waiting for you to rediscover it.

1️⃣ When It’s Time to Walk Away, Walk Away

One of the hardest lessons I had to learn was this: staying too long in a situation that no longer serves you is not strength—it’s self-sabotage.

💡 Cutting your losses early is not failure; it’s wisdom.
💡 Holding on to what’s breaking you is not loyalty; it’s fear.

Sometimes, the bravest thing you can do is stop fighting for what’s already broken and start fighting for yourself.

📖 Ecclesiastes 3:1 – “There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens.”

2️⃣ No One Cares as Much as You Think—And That’s Okay

The truth? Everyone has their own struggles. Oversharing your pain doesn’t always bring relief—it can sometimes give people a false sense of power over you.

💡 Not everyone is meant to hold space for your healing.
💡 Not every ear is a safe place for your pain.

Learn to guard your heart and protect your energy. The people who truly care will walk with you, but even they cannot do the work for you.

📖 Proverbs 4:23 – “Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.”

3️⃣ Keep Your Circle Small & Sacred

Healing requires privacy and protection. Not everyone deserves access to your most vulnerable moments.

💡 Choose your circle wisely.
💡 Even in your trusted circle, be mindful—what you share can still travel beyond it.

Cry, vent, process—but remember that your greatest healing will happen in the quiet moments when it’s just you, God, and your truth.

📖 Psalm 91:1 – “He who dwells in the secret place of the Most High shall abide under the shadow of the Almighty.”

4️⃣ People May Not Understand Your Decision to Let Go—That’s Not Your Problem

One of the most painful realities of walking away from something you’ve battled for is realising that the same people who saw your struggle may not support your decision to stop fighting.

💡 People will question you.
💡 People will expect you to keep holding on.
💡 But only you know when you’ve reached your limit.

I had to learn that choosing myself wasn’t weakness—it was the bravest thing I could do. You don’t owe the world an explanation for putting yourself first.

📖 Galatians 1:10 – “Am I now seeking the approval of man, or of God? If I were still trying to please man, I would not be a servant of Christ.”

📌 5️⃣ Healing Has No Timeline—Give Yourself Grace

One of the biggest misconceptions about healing is that it happens in a straight line. That once you decide to move on, you just move on. But that’s not how it works.

💡 Healing is messy.
💡 Healing is non-linear.
💡 Healing is both breaking and rebuilding at the same time.

I remember times when I thought I had finally moved on—I had done the therapy, said the affirmations, prayed the prayers, and convinced myself that I was okay. And then, one moment, one memory, or one unexpected trigger would send me spiralling back into pain.

I was both rising and falling at the same time.

Some days, I felt strong. Other days, I could barely function. And for a long time, I felt frustrated by my own inability to just ‘get over it.’

But here’s what I realised: no one gets to determine the amount of time it takes for you to heal—not even you.

💡 You don’t “fail” at healing just because you find yourself struggling again.
💡 Taking longer than expected doesn’t mean you’re weak—it means you’re human.
💡 Healing is not a deadline—it’s a process. And for some, that process takes years.

So be kind to yourself. There’s no shame in taking your time.

📖 Psalm 147:3 – “He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.”

The important thing is this: even when you fall, you keep getting back up.

6️⃣ Protect Your Energy—The Deepest Healing Happens in Solitude

There are some wounds that no amount of socialising, distractions, or even church services can fix. Some levels of healing require solitude.

💡 There are breakthroughs that only happen in silence.
💡 There is clarity that only comes in isolation.
💡 God speaks the loudest when everything else is quiet.

Give yourself permission to retreat, reflect, and reset.

📖 Isaiah 30:15 – “In quietness and trust is your strength.”

📌 Finally: Do You Go Back or Step Into Something New?

When you finally start to heal, you will ask yourself:

✨ Do I try to return to who I was before?
✨ Or do I embrace the version of me that has been reshaped by pain, healing, and transformation?

The truth? You will never be the same person you were before the storm. And that’s a good thing.

Your pain didn’t just break you—it built you. It refined you, gave you new wisdom, and stretched you beyond what you thought you could endure.

So why shrink back into an old version of yourself when God has been moulding you into something new?

📖 2 Corinthians 5:17 – “Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; the old has passed away, the new has come.”

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🔥 This Week, It’s Time to Come Back to Yourself

We don’t stay in pain, grief, or retreat forever. At some point, we must step out of the ashes and rise.

This week, I’m calling you out of your place of retreat and back into your power. You have spent enough time healing, reflecting, and recovering. Now, it’s time to move.

✔ No more apologising for choosing yourself.
✔ No more waiting for external validation.
✔ No more hiding from your next season.

Remember who you are. And walk boldly in it.

💬 Drop a 🔥 in the comments if you’re stepping into your power this week!

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