Breaking Barriers: How Women Leaders Can Overcome Imposter Syndrome

Growing up as the middle child, I became familiar with feelings of inadequacy and imposter syndrome very early. I was always in the middle—never quite old enough for some things, but not young enough for others. It often left me wondering where I fit in, not just in the family, but in life. This experience led me to spend a lot of time in my own head, processing these feelings, and unfortunately, many of those thoughts spiraled into self-doubt and fear.

As I grew, these early experiences with feeling 'in-between' followed me into adulthood. Whether in corporate boardrooms or business ventures, I found myself constantly questioning if I truly belonged. Yet, through the process of reflection and self-work, I realised that those early struggles shaped me into a deeper thinker, someone who is able to navigate between worlds. Learning to push through self-doubt and lean into my authenticity became my strength—not just a burden to bear.

I remember early in my career, even as I was climbing the ranks as a brand strategist for a global FMCG, I often felt out of place—like I didn’t belong at the table. I questioned whether I was good enough, yes - I knew I was accepted on academic achievement and went through a rigorous selection process, but I still found myself questioning whether I had earned the right be there, let alone to lead. It wasn’t until much later that I learned there was a name for this: imposter syndrome. As I read more leadership books and interacted with my peers, I realised that this feeling is incredibly common, especially for women.

Keeping feelings of inadequacy bottled up can significantly limit your potential, fueling imposter syndrome, perfectionism, and stifling creativity. It can lead to chronic self-doubt, missed opportunities, and strained relationships, while also impacting your mental health with stress and anxiety. Over time, unaddressed inadequacy holds you back from taking risks, embracing leadership roles, and fully engaging with your personal and professional growth. Acknowledging and working through these feelings is crucial to unlocking your true potential and leading with confidence.

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One of the books that shifted my perspective was “Lean In” by Sheryl Sandberg, where she highlights how women, even in high-powered roles, often face self-doubt and fear that they don’t belong. It’s a false narrative, but a powerful one. Through my own journey, I learned that imposter syndrome is something we must consciously work through, and I want to share with you some strategies that have helped me—and many other women leaders—break through this barrier.

1. Recognise the Lies of Self-Doubt

Imposter syndrome thrives in silence and isolation. The more we question our competence internally, the more those doubts take root. I’ve learned to start by recognising that these thoughts are just that—thoughts. They don’t reflect reality. Every time I’ve faced self-doubt, I’ve reminded myself of my achievements, the work I’ve put in, and the value I bring to the table. Doing this, gives perspective and can help you snap out of the spiral. I invite you to do that same; take stock of your achievements and shift your perspective of yourself.

2. Own Your Success

Women tend to attribute success to external factors like luck, timing or favour, rather than acknowledging their own hard work. But here’s what I’ve come to realise: we must own our successes as much as we own our challenges. This is something that was reinforced in “The Confidence Code” by Katty Kay and Claire Shipman, where the authors discuss how women often underplay their accomplishments. Celebrate your wins—every step of your leadership journey deserves recognition.

3. Surround Yourself with Mentors

One of the most significant shifts in my own leadership journey happened when I opened myself to mentorship. I sought out leaders in the business - men and women who had been where I was, or simply were just where I wanted to be, and their guidance was invaluable. Mentorship isn’t just about learning—it’s about perspective. A good mentor will provide valuable insights, help you navigate challenges, and offer a fresh perspective on your goals. Find someone who sees your potential and can help you see it too.

4. Change the Narrative

When I first read “Mindset” by Carol Dweck, it opened my eyes to the power of reframing. The way we speak to ourselves matters. Instead of saying “I’m not qualified,” I now say, “I have the experience and the expertise to add value.” This small shift in mindset is transformative, and I encourage you to start consciously rewriting the narrative that plays in your mind. Search for the poem titled "Our Deepest Fear" by Marianne Williamson and read it out loud to yourself, listening to every word and allowing it to energise you and help you embrace your greatness! If you can, buy her book titled "A Return To Love".

5. Lead with Authenticity

I’ve found that the most effective leaders aren’t those who pretend to have all the answers—they’re the ones who lead with authenticity. In my journey of leadership, I have connected more with authentic leaders who were not afraid to share their own life experiences to empower and uplift. In my journey as a leader and business women, I’ve made mistakes, and I’ve grown from them. Real leadership isn’t about perfection—it’s about integrity, vulnerability, and strength. Don’t be afraid to show the real you. When you lead with authenticity, you give others permission to do the same.

My final thought for you is this: Imposter syndrome is a reflection of your high standards, not your inadequacies. You belong at the table because you’ve earned it—don’t let self-doubt steal that truth from you. For me, launching this platform is a form of breaking barriers. I invite you to find your own and break them!

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